Well, it’s been quite awhile since my last post. It seems this project has fully become solely my responsibility through and through. And as time demands many things on its own schedule instead of mine, this project has suffered thus far. Hopefully I Will be back on track with things soon.
However, time permitting or not, I had to create time this weekend for someone special. She is both a friend and a family member, and someone we are all very proud of. She just recently reached a six-month milestone on a never-ending path, one she has been treading one step at a time and one day at a time.
Our pride and admiration comes not from the journey itself, for many people travel this same path every day of every year. Rather, our pride and admiration stems from the courage and fortitude she has found and relied on throughout her journey thus far.
Some of us in the family are traveling that same road, albeit some years ahead of her, but the fundamentals have never changed for us, nor will they for her. In fact, the only distinction between us and her is that she is still climbing that first hill while we are only remembering it. But it is our memory of that time that makes us so much more proud of her – and it is her endurance that even provides some strength for us on some days.
See, those who walk this path have learned (quite the hard way) just how much our memory can be a blessing or a curse. A blessing when it shines with the clarity of daylight, illuminating the tensions, troubles, and regrets we created and lived with during our darkest days. Conversely, memory can be a curse when we fallaciously cherry-pick one of the very few occasions when we actually may have smiled or laughed sincerely while sitting in hell.
Many people have a tendency to remember things or times in their life as being much better than they really were – but not us. Not the few and the anonymous whom have learned the hard way. Not us that one day found ourselves being members of exclusive organizations we never wanted to be part of and, yet, were never so grateful to be part of when we realized that we were.
However, no matter whom among us might distort memories of yesteryear, every one of us remembers the very first days of their journey. Especially that point after a few months have gone by and, as the glow and haze of pride begin to dim from our eyesight, we begin to realize that just beyond the precious armor of new-found sobriety — there was life (with all of it’s joys and sorrows) just sitting right there waiting to knock us down a few pegs. If you have never traveled our path, then you probably have no idea just how accurate of a description it is when someone laments that, “Life’s a real bitch!”
There are some of us that know just how hard that first six-months can be. So many ups and downs, so many challenges and revelations, so much joy and disappointment. Also, those of us whom have made it through that six-month trial also know that life keeps getting better and things keep getting easier. Not too quickly, but they eventually get there — one day a time.
We are so proud to welcome our friend and family member to yet another inner circle. She has overcome so much and traveled so far, only to look back and say, “Never again.” She has had the unending love and support of a close family, which is so important that it can often be the bedrock or sand upon which a house of sobriety is built. But make no mistake, support (as important as it is) only comes from the sidelines, for the broken road back is traveled solely by the individual.
So, it is because she has traveled that path, head held high, facing all the joy and tears that came her way, that we are so proud. The thing she will not fully realize for many years to come is just how much of an inspiration she is to others that will come after her — and more importantly, how much she inspires those that came before her. She no longer wanders aimlessly through life, but rather marches to a Cadence now. And she makes all of us smile whenever her name comes up.
Keep on keeping on, sweetheart. You are the change we all want to be in life!